A day is enough. Come Ten at night and I see a green banana on the counter labeled “Fresh.” No, don’t start, not now. But then I wake up to bird noise and my seedlings sunning by the window, content. What would I have thought if I’d seen the banana in the morning instead? Or, if I’d seen it three days later, yellow, would I have thought at all?
Could I never speak again? Apparently the experience, if ever achieved, of hesychia is euphoric despite its frailty. Life becomes streaming worship, luminous, intense in its deep tranquility. But Abba Antony cautions: “Just as fish die if they stay too long out of water, so do monks who loiter outside their cells or pass their time with persons of the world lose the intensity of inner stillness.”
Sober up, you could spend thirty years just breathing only to deflate that raft in a matter of minutes by sharing the pond with some blabbering fishermen. Or even by paying too much attention to the fish.
Abba Arsenius describes a slackening of the heart’s silence (whose?) when hearing “the song of the little sparrow.” Well it worked for Merton, famous by his twenties, after taking the vow. He was content in his undisturbed thoughtful way for a while. He deemed it good. Then quite seriously he asked, “But is it good enough?”
Is anyone else finding this sobering? Can you imagine how hard it must’ve been to be Merton, to have taken a vow and lived it faithfully, and ask that question in earnest? I’m trying to, but to be honest, my mind snagged whiles back on the phrase “persons of the world” (as opposed to? Someone who doesn’t eat, drink, or evacuate bowels?) and I’m getting distracted by the sparrows out my window. Ah, that’s it—I was just remembering why I’m not as sober as a monk.
But I am content. And I like hearing the birds even if I’m losing my grasp on the What in me that isn’t me. I like seeing the patterns on fish. A monk’s way is one, valuable; there are others. This page is contentment—odd, disjointed, fractured, yet imbued with a certain imprecise unity (that’s me). Health might not be a state of integration so much as a state of stable disarray.
For all the talk and tallies of happiness, we know so little about it. We give weight, research, and money to understanding its absence while we can’t seem to envision its presence. There is no oasis, endless downhill, or plateau to reach; you’d get bored, idle, or worse—anyway, discontent. Happiness soon curdles. “And yet,” said Freud, “we wish each other happiness and contentment and other inappropriate things.”
Think more of homeostasis. We oscillate, gyrate, shift responsively to shifts, rebalance, and hopefully hold it all together. So next time, what we ought to say to folks is: “gyrate deftly.” You first.
“You’ve got problems,” one of my 4th graders told me. “Yeah, hair problems,” added another. This was after I’d shaved, too. I can already tell one of these boys is gonna pass me up when puberty gets through with him, but I didn’t want to scare him yet. I laughed with them, but I was thinking, I do, don’t I? We’re all a little hairy and we haven’t figured out how to wear our fur. We can deny it, trim it, or wear it like a tail, but we’re uncomfortable.
Here he goes again, he’s starting. Why always start back at the beginning of an issue? Why get so abstract? Why over think? Yes, yes, we are animals and yet human. Stop there. Move on. Fresh green banana.
Because this helps me gyrate. This is why I’m content. This helps me not be a denier of the quirky mind that holds my personalities together. And because can you really move on? When every day you pull on your hair, eat, drink, and evacuate your bowels. When kids remind you of your fur. Happiness is hairy. Don’t think you can control your mind in the slightest, though it may convince you, in sleight.
Merton had hair problems. His implications can get a little hairy too. He asked questions he didn’t have to ask. He’d taken a vow. Move on—no going back. The answers won’t influence you because you’ve already made your commitment. But it was the questions that mattered because he asked them in earnest and let them shape him. He still had to figure out how to wear his fur, how to regard the sparrow rather than always dwell in undisturbed thought.
Wear it well. Gyrate deftly. Keep it fresh.
-MKS